Nothing is going to hit you as hard as life.

The most inspirational email I have ever received:

Hello my name is Silvia. I was writing to u because I don’t understand how depression makes u gain weight. People say u r being selfish that u don’t understand the situations people r going thrue. Let me tell u a little about me. I was rape by grad father when I was little for 5 years. Then my parents move me to the states. And I was happy for a year an half. Then my dad rape me from age 11 to 17. Finally left after that. Then I got marry not 3 years into my marriage my husband left me for my sister. His mom took my kids because I couldn’t support then I was illegal couldn’t work could get an apartment. I am very smart I have dreams. I always wanted to be a nurse. But can’t go to school didn’t have papers just complete high school.  It hurt to know that people have the opportunity to go to school and didn’t go an me what want to go so bad can. I kept working illegally to fix my papers. Finally did. Now I work in a engineering yeah and I am a woman. Yeah I was sad alot but instead of letting life beat me down I fought back with everything I had. I thought if I stay here sad nothing is going to change. I always thought u change your thinking. You change your world.  I never done drugs. I just kept going everytime I felt bad I would say like Doris on finding nemo. You know what u have to do when life get u down? He said I don’t want to know. Just keep swimming just keep swimming. Lol. Or I listen to the movie rocky balboa. When he said. The world is not sunshine and rainbow is a mean and nasty place. Nothing is going to hit u as hard as life. But is not about how hard u get hit it’s about about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward how much u can take and keep going forward. That’s how winning us done. Or when Mohammad Ali said. I will show u how great I am. Anyways sorry for being so long. So yeah I don’t understand I hate when people say. I just stop caring because I got rape. I dont have sympathy for that reason.  I got rape by people that should have love me the most. U just have to angry and keep going. So I agree with u its a state of mind. I am poor. My parents didn’t help me at all. If I didn’t do something find a way I don’t know where I would be. I didn’t have a choice to be sad. I wanted my life to change more than anything.

Everyone has a difficult life. That’s why I always said don’t judge someone because u never walk in their shoes. I read alot and was looking for answers how other people feel and I bump into your article. People need to know that if you don’t  make a change you will regret it for the rest of your life. But if you can’t do it you gave it your all and then some. You have nothing good too loose but everything to gain.

I thank God for where I am. Yeah its difficult but everyday is a new day. God helps people but people have to help themselves. I thank God for many night that I drove without a license. Never got into an accident or tickets. He protected me. O I didn’t say this but I also have never been in trouble with the law. Never been to jail. When I was at my lowest point I would read. Footprints in the sand.  I can’t even read the whole poem because it makes me try just to even think about it.

Let me tell u something funny my church try to send me to a therapist I when. She wanted to talk about how everything was affecting me talk about the experience. She wanted to know all the details of the events. I told her. She wanted to know deeper how that made me feel. I literally told her why? I don’t want to live in the past. I can’t change it it’s over its gone it happen. I want to talk about my future what can I do to improve my future. She said but you r probably doing things that affect u unconscious. I said no and I left. Sure she knew about this stuff she has study no disrespect to her and her career. But I didn’t see the point in staying in the past.

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15 Comments

  • Reply Susan Lea Rudd May 18, 2015 at 1:05 AM

    I think it is wonderful for her, and she has every right to be proud. But how many others are depressed and have committed suicide given similar circumstances? Everyone’s chemical makeup is different, this is why there are allergies, why some people react this way to a medication and some react another. Why some people have more trouble with weight than others, why others have chronic illnesses. Why some people become addicts and others don’t. I could give other examples. No, she will never understand depression because she does not have it.

  • Reply silvia May 18, 2015 at 6:04 AM

    What makea you think she doesn’t have problema with her weight? Maybe that’s her next goal. Maybe some people hurt themselves because other people don’t extent a helping him to does that really need it.

  • Reply silvia May 18, 2015 at 6:10 AM

    Helping hand to those that really needed it sorry. Because other are to busy thinking about their problems. Someone people coming suicide because they are bully. What about the girls that have been bully and put their foot down and made a change By turning them around on them. Don’t think of the past. The past happen. Look forward always.

  • Reply zelda June 14, 2015 at 2:10 AM

    Yeah I admire the writer but chemical depression is a fact – it’s science, it’s proven and some people just need it. Genetics is also a fact which cannot be simply ‘thought’your way out of. I know many people who just block everything out and get on and succeed…but they are not really balanced or happy. I used to be that way myself. Until 20 years later I crashed. Now I am more balanced and never judge anyone for being selfish or fat or anything. If you are genuinely happy and balanced you don’t criticize others or call them weak…bragging about being tough or not ‘needing’what others need is simply mean and childish.

  • Reply Thinkfar June 24, 2015 at 5:48 PM

    Yeah this smells a little made up. As someone who went through large life trauma and addiction, the part where she runs away from her therapist is TERRIBLE advice. We have to study our past to locate the habits and negative pathways that got us here, THEN we can look and change the future.

  • Reply Cassie June 26, 2015 at 12:40 AM

    This article is clearly written to provoke reaction. Everyone deserves compassion, regardless of whether you believe their suffering to be ‘real’ or self (mind) imposed. Suffering is suffering. These are only opinions and that is mine.

  • Reply Silvia July 6, 2015 at 10:02 PM

    This was not made up in anyway shape or for. I am that girl. I didn’t write it to provoke anyone. I wrote it because I don’t understand how some people can just give up. It’s about encouraging others and helping other always be kind to others because u don’t know what they r going thru in their life. It’s not about bragging either. It’s about helping each other. Noone else help me. The only thing that came out of all off this experiences it’s that. I help everyone and everyone I don’t regret I don’t turn my back. I don’t judge because u don’t know unless u walk that person shoes. With all the pain I move on and I thank God every day for been the person that I am I wouldn’t change it. I hope someone reads my story and find hope to keep going. Stop twisting it around please.

    • Reply Jayne July 14, 2015 at 12:35 PM

      …and what about your kids, they are with you now?

  • Reply John July 16, 2015 at 11:13 PM

    That’s not depression when bad things happen you’re supposed to feel bad that’s what is natural. Depression is when you have negative feelings with no cause. Yes you can make choices that will help, but you can’t just wake up and force yourself to be happy it takes time to get over depression, and sometimes you need help to get through it, and it’s perfectly fine to ask for help. It’s hard to be motivated to get out of a mental state that by definition saps you of all feeling of motivation. The definition of a mental dissorder is a recurring pattern of behavior deviating from cultural norms that causes distress for oneself or others. Notice how that doesn’t include anything about what causes it so regardless of if you believe people actually chose to be insane by that definition mentall illness will still exist.

  • Reply Teresa August 24, 2015 at 5:22 AM

    I had was raped by my father brother and two uncles from time I was three till I was sixteen left home got married had children lost them in divorce custody battle did not do drugs or drink held down 2 to 3 jobs no one helped me now I’m in my fifties and not so busy so more and all the sudden I just started crying so be careful because your past does come back to Haun you and I am blessed I have God and a good therapist who helps me we don’t always dwell on the past but she is helping me deal with all that pain that was bottled up and the depression I’m going through

  • Reply Silvia September 22, 2015 at 3:38 PM

    My kids are not with me now. I am going to talk to a lawyer on the 1st. Even thought I don’t see them I have been providing. My ex husband has the kids now and he said I am going to see them Saturday the 3rd. Super happy. My daughter a replicable me . It’s wonderful. But I still am talking to my lawyer. Not sitting and waiting. Wish me the best and pray my kids love me the same

    • Reply Tamika October 26, 2015 at 10:08 PM

      Wish you the best good luck, nobody know anyone’s story so please don’t judge,Believe

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