The more we think, the more we talk, and the more we think.
Today I was having a conversation with someone who suffers from various forms of anxiety. Anxiety from not working, anxiety at the thought of flying, anxiety at the thought of being left alone for ten minutes. Damn near everything in this person’s life that is not perfect causes them anxiety. They were talking, and talking, and talking, and after almost an hour of talking, the result was a place that was no better or different to the one we began in. They felt a little better about having opened up, but there was no resolution.
Apart from the fact that I am not a trained psychiatrist, there was little difference between this and your stereotypical psych session. The patient talks about themself for an hour, and maybe feels a little better at the end, but ultimately nothing is resolved. It got me to thinking that modern psychiatry is complete bullshit.
The vast majority of the problems we have in life are psychological, and problems need psychological food to live. By thinking about them and talking about them we feed them and give them life. With each feeding our problems grow, and eventually they become big enough to destroy us. If we forget about our problems they cease to exist. By focussing on other things we stop feeding our problems and they lose strength. In time our problems become weak, and eventually they die.
How then is it helpful for anybody to sit there and endlessly talk about their problems? What we should be doing is the exact opposite. We need to forget about our problems. We need to stop feeding them and giving them life. By endlessly talking about our problems we are effectively endlessly talking about ourselves. This only serves to strengthen our focus on our own centre, causing a greater imbalance on the spiritual centre/periphery balance that is so essential to a happy and balanced life.
I once heard somebody say that if all your problems are about money then you don’t have any problems. That’s awesome, but we need to take that further and say that if all of your problems are about you then you need not have any problems. It’s different if your kids don’t have food to eat, or a loved one is ill, for these are real problems. But when you decide to sit there and talk endlessly about your shitty childhood, or how your wife left you for your best friend ecc ecc, then you need not have any problems. Traumatic or not, they’re all in your head.
Stop thinking about your psychological problems. Stop talking about them. Find something more important than yourself and focus all of your energy on it. Fall in love. Have a family. Be a philanthropist, or find God. Make your life’s centre something other than yourself. You don’t need medication. You don’t need to talk about yourself. What you need is something in your life that matters more than the bullshit that you call problems.